How to Make the Most of Meal Time

The involvement of the family has always been a critical component of Applied Behavioral Analysis for treatment of autism. Parents often ask how they can be more involved, how they can take what their child is learning during therapy and apply it at home.

Mealtime is an excellent time for the family to be more involved and help your child with autism apply their new skills into everyday life.

Setting the Table

You can turn setting the table into a simple matching game. You can do this by making a set of placemats with an outline for a cup, the plate, and one or two pieces of silverware. You can give your child the plates (or cups, silverware) so that they can match the shapes with the item they have.

Try to keep one or two back to encourage your child to ask for them. Prompt your child by showing them the whole or only part of the piece they still need to complete the setting. Provide plate or cups with pictures of your child’s favorite character and teach them to request the plate, silverware or cup that they want.

Helping Make the Meal

If you are making oatmeal or a bowl of cereal for your child for breakfast, instead of you pouring the milk or water into the bowl allow them to do it. If you are making pancakes or waffles ask your child to get the different ingredients, you can even portion the ingredients out into smaller containers to make it easier for your child.

You can go a step further and instead of just asking them to get the ingredients for you, you can make it more like a conversation. “Okay, we need eggs. Eggs are in the…” If your child is nonverbal but can read or write you can still make it more like a conversation by using flash cards with words on them or write the words out.

If your child has limited experience with different cooking actions, demonstrate it for them and encourage them to try. For example, if you are adding water, you pour a little and let your child pour in the rest.

Cooking can also be used as an opportunity to practice sequencing. You can do this by placing the ingredients in the correct order on the table and teach your child to name what to do first… second… third and so on. Example: First we pour the cereal, then we pour in the milk, then we get the spoon.

Cleaning Up

Don’t miss out on having your child with autism help during clean up. Teach them where to put their cup, plate and silverware once they are done eating. If you need to, use imitation and model what needs to be done for your child.


In the beginning you may need to reward your child immediately after they complete a task correctly. Reinforcers that are quick and easy to give such as their favorite snack or a token system. As your child gets familiar with the new activities lengthen the amount of time in-between rewards.

Together, we can unlock your child’s potential

Related News


Social Skills Deficits – Lighthouse Autism Center

Many autistic children struggle with social interactions due to social skills deficits. Read our blog to learn more about what social deficits are, how this can affect your autistic child’s life and the steps you can take to help them improve or overcome their social deficits. Understanding Social Skills Deficits in Autistic Children Many autistic […]

Read more


Sensory Seeking vs Avoiding – Lighthouse Autism Center

Children with autism may struggle with sensory issues that lead to sensory seeking or sensory avoiding behavior. We explore these two types of behavior, their causes, the problems they may create and how they can both lead to sensory overload. Sensory Seeking vs Sensory Avoiding in Autistic Children Many autistic children have a variety of […]

Read more


Sleep Tips For Children with Autism – Lighthouse Autism Center

There are many children who struggle with sleep issues that prevent them from getting a good night’s rest. We explore the ways that autism can impact a child’s sleep and provide tips to help you address them. Sleep Tips To Help Autistic Children There are many children on the autism spectrum who struggle with sleep […]

Read more